Surviving child abuse often requires a life-time of healing because many times, the child is inflicted with multiple types of abuse, by multiple abusers. As if abuse itself isn’t bad enough, more often than not, it is influenced and complicated by generations of dysfunctional and self-destructive behavior. This leaves behind many afflictions to overcome, which takes times.
Too often a child, not knowing of adult things, let alone how to deal with them is unaware that they are being abused because what is happening to them is presented as normal, or just how it is. They are left unsafe, and unprotected. Even if the child intuitively knows something is wrong, they go into survival mode, which is a perfectly normal for all humans; animal instinct takes over.
Young victims cannot be expected to understand that they are living in a toxic environment. This is why I say in my book –
“Sometimes we just don’t know, what we don’t know, until we know it.”
The song Toxicity comes to mind; Toxicity – System of a Down
Awareness and education will always assist us in bringing an end to atrocities, and the suffering created by them. Recognizing that some have suffered more than others, helping all survivors go beyond recovery, is our highest priority. For some victims, survival of the events can be the easiest part to heal from; which NEVER is, actually simple. Survival mode keeps us, pissed-off and defensive, numb, in denial, and overly sensitive, as we cope with what happened. That may be survival, but it isn’t truly living. Take that a step further, and it prevents us from becoming and living from the authentic self. It keeps us from the life which we were intended to live.
During the Amazon launch of my book, Why Bother? Because Self-Help is Never Stupid, October 23-28, 2014, I will be donating a portion of the royalties from every book sale to help get the documentary “I AM A Survivor” into production.
With over 24% of the population claiming to have been abused, it is an understatement to say this is a rampant problem that we all need to be more educated on, particularly because of its complexities, which go down a very deep rabbit hole.
Please help by making a donation to: I Am A Survivor, the film. To learn more, go to http://johnnyrock5000.wix.com/iamasurvivor. Your donation will help me, and all who have agreed to share their voice to participate in the film, and spread the word; breaking more silence, and ending more suffering.
Imagine a world where we could focus on greeting challenges, rather than trying to repair shattered pieces, and sweeping up what just can’t be fixed. This is why I stand by Johnny, and his commitment to the film.
My dream is that one day children will be raised in such a way that they don’t have to recover from their childhood. ~ Johnny Rock